Jessica+Benlin | Cornell Botanical Gardens | Ithaca Wedding Photographer
I love when I get to follow a couple’s journey after their wedding, because seeing a marriage thrive and develop is a huge reason why I’m even in this industry. I shot Jessica and Benlin’s wedding in Ithaca, NY 3 years ago, and got to meet up with them for an anniversary session a couple of months back. We met at Cornell’s Botanical Gardens, which was such a magical setting! It had just been raining, so no one else was there, providing such a peaceful atmosphere. We got talking about marriage, and I asked them to share things they’d discovered about each other post-wedding day. They were gracious enough to allow me share their answers!
From Benlin: She has way more grace for people than anyone I’ve ever met. Her ability to be in an attitude of grace while everyone else is going crazy is something incredible! And she immediately forgives people and always thinks the best of them.
From Jess: Being married to Benlin is the best thing in my life, but in many ways, we couldn’t be more different. He was born and raised in India, I’m from a really small town in upstate New York. He is a deep thinker, I like to figure it out while I go. He plans years into the future, I focus on plans for this week and next. He is a realist, I am an idealist. He sees things in black and white, I see all the grey areas. He can detect a person’s state of mind and empathize with them in one short conversation, seeing things I may never have noticed. I thought I was pretty generous before I married him, but he consistently out-gives me in ways I never even considered. That’s one of my favorite things about him. All these differences are the flavor of our life together, and we have chosen to celebrate and appreciate our differences because we know that by putting them together we are stronger than we could ever be apart.
Some people think a cross-cultural marriage can’t work. We refuse to accept that. At our core, we are two people designed by God, completely devoted to following His plan for our lives, and we know that He brought us together on purpose. We know that nothing else really matters in comparison to the gift of having each other, and honestly, we are so incredibly happy just to finally belong together. Here’s to 100 billion more anniversaries!